Thursday, April 21, 2016

The Truth About Moving

My friends, I have moved quite a bit over the past four years. I have moved four times, if you count moving from the Center for Solutions into a real house, and I do count that for sure! For those of you who have moved, you feel my pain. It is hard to sell a house, to pack up all your belongings, find a new house, and settle in. It feels weird-no one knows your history, your likes or dislikes, people don't get your HILARIOUS jokes, it is just rough. I grew up in what once was a small town in Utah. (Now it is a booming metropolis!) My parents grew up there. THEIR parents grew up there. In fact, when the Mormon Pioneers came to the Salt Lake Valley, it was my ancestors who built their homes into the sides of the hills for shelter. Yes, it was HOME. And no one really ever left home. We lived withing walking distance of both of my grandparents, and I grew up with my cousins. Everything was very familiar-I knew most people, most people knew me. And even though deep in my heart I always kind of longed to be the 'new kid,' I had it pretty good.

Fast forward to four years ago-when we moved across the country. I remember that move to Arkansas so vividly. I remember that moment realizing that it was all on me. That if anything happened, it was going to be up to me to figure it out. I am not one who really likes to ask for help anyway, but just knowing that if I got a flat tire on the freeway I couldn't call my Dad, or if I were sick my mom couldn't come to help-that was pretty sobering stuff. Add to the fact that I had five really young children, and well, it all felt pretty heavy.

I feel like moving comes in stages. The first stage is the 'romance' stage. The stage where everything is new and exciting-sure, it is different, but that is the fun of it. You could be anyone in this new place, and it is sure to be full of kind and helpful people-maybe just the fresh start you needed. You find the good in everything-almost like you fall in love with your new place. Everything is wonderful.

And after a few months of this, things become, well, routine. This second stage is the hardest stage. I call it the 'this is reality' stage. It is the stage where things aren't 'new' anymore, not really exciting, and you are just left to figure out who you are and how you fit in. The stage where the kids are settled in school, the spouse is finding his way in his new job, and you really start to miss things. Things like family gatherings, shopping options no longer available to you, the familiarity of friends and aquaintances. This is where reality hits you right in the nose. You're far from home. The newness and shininess has worn off. And you just have to wait it out, until you hit the 'upswing.'

The upswing happens after about a year. You are familiar enough with the new place to anticipate things that are going to happen-you feel more comfortable. You know more people at back to school night. You have some started some friendships. You are starting to feel like you have a place, like you almost belong.

I have tried my best to skip from stage one (the romance stage) directly to stage three (the upswing), but the truth is, you just can't skip stage two. If there were a way to do so, I would have done it already! So here I sit-the newness has worn off, I am feeling a little homesick, and just trying to figure out where I fit in. I have been in this stage before-I know that it passes, and that it is just something I need to wait out, but I wanted to share my feelings with you-especially if you have just moved somewhere new-somewhere you thought would be wonderful, and just can't figure out why you are feeling so sad and lonely. That is the nature of stage two. You're not alone-and I promise it doesn't last forever. Do I think ANYWHERE I live will ever feel as familiar as good old South Jordan, Utah? No, probably not. That is where my ROOTS are-dug right into the sides of the hills. For now I am settling into stage two, knowing that Stage three will be here eventually-probably sometime next November.

Sunday, April 10, 2016

Ultimate Reset: Week One

This is my special 'one week thumbs up!' You're welcome.

Here I am, on Day seven of the Ultimate Reset! Great news, guys, I am still alive! This past week was definitely challenging, but honestly not as bad as I thought it would be. I had visions of being curled up in the corner, rocking back and forth as I screamed about how sick I felt. Everything I had read and heard was that week one was the toughest, as your body starts to detox. So I prepared for the worst! I never really felt sick-on days two and three I felt tired. So nothing super dramatic.

Day one was the hardest! Just figuring out when to eat, when to take my supplements, when to drink my water, etc, that was a little tricky. But now it feels more like a routine. Here is the hardest part of the program (habit-wise) for me:

1. Waiting to eat between breakfast and lunch. I am used to eating quite a bit in the morning, so waiting around for lunch can be a challenge.

2. Not chewing gum! I never knew how much gum I chewed until I had to consciously remind myself, "No gum!"

Another challenge is of course my emotional eating. This was a big reason why I wanted to do the reset-to have some space to deal with my feelings and not just stuff them down with food!  So now that I am just 'feeling all the feels' that is good-but I won't say it is easy. It has been an eye-opener to see how often I ate from stress, frustration, boredom, or wanting to 'celebrate' rather than from hunger.

Other than that, I know I am going to sound weird here, but I totally love it. The food has been fantastic, I feel REALLY great, and my digestive system has NEVER been this good. I have struggled with digestion my ENTIRE life, and I had no idea I could feel this great.

And just to give myself a little pat on the back-this past week my hubby was out of town for three days, so I had all five kiddos on my own-that normally would have kicked in emotional eating for sure, but I stayed strong. We had a pizza party for my daughter, so there was pizza, cake, and ice cream in the house this weekend, too. THAT was a little rough-luckily the hubby was kind enough to dish up the food so I could just go and hide in my room with my water bottle :)

So here I am, 1/3 of the way there! I am excited to see what I can accomplish in the next two weeks!

Sunday, April 3, 2016

Ready to Reset

Tomorrow I start the Ultimate Reset, which is a 21-day cleanse.

This is confusing, right? Because my message is 'slow and steady,' and 'progress, not perfection.'

I talk about how I have done CRAZY crap in the past to try to lose weight, like a 21 Day Juice Fast, and the 3-day lemon juice/cayenne pepper thing, and how I VOWED to never to stuff like that to my body again.

So why on earth would I do something that is a '21-Day-Cleanse?' Am I not walking the talk?

I just wanted to share with you my reasons for 'resetting.'

I'm not looking to lose a quick 10 lbs. Honestly, if I don't lose any weight at all, but accomplish my goal, I am going to call it a win.

What is my goal? I want to heal my relationship with food.

I want to know what my body loves, and what gives me problems with my digestion. Because honestly I really don't know. I know that I have digestive issues, but I'm not exactly sure from what. So this reset should help with that. I also want some time to work out my emotional eating. I want to know why it is that I do great in the morning, but come late afternoon I could eat everything in sight. Why I use food as an escape, as a 'reward' instead of nourishment. It may sound hokey-dokey, but this is very much a spiritual journey for me. I want to feel more connected to my eating, and feel like I am using food as it was meant to be-to help strengthen my body.

There are a few things you should know about the Ultimate Reset. First and foremost, the Ultimate Reset is not a juice fast. You eat real food the entire time, and the portions are generous. So-no starving here. (Which is super comforting, because mama is a big eater!) Basically you take some supplements to balance the alkanizatio
n in your body and push out toxins. You start week 1 by slowly phasing out animal products. Week 2 is all about fruits, veggies, and grains. By the time week 3 comes around, it is basically all veggies and fruit.

I am excited for this adventure-and I will share it all with you along the way! The good, the bad, and the ugly. I will write a review of week 1 next Sunday, and if you want to follow my daily journey, make sure you follow me on instagram @coachmeliss, or on facebook at